Mother talking with teen about "risky behavior."

Parenthood is a journey filled with moments of joy, love, and inevitable challenges. As your teen starts pushing boundaries and testing waters, it's crucial to understand that these risky behaviors are often part of their journey to self-discovery. For parents, this phase can be both confusing and worrisome, but handling it with compassion is key.

Esse Health Pediatrics understands the worries parents may have about their kids' risky behavior. In this post, we'll talk about ways to handle these situations with care and keep the communication open.

Understanding Risky Behaviors in Teens

Teens naturally explore their limits as they try to figure out who they are. This process is not only normal but essential for their personal development. As a parent, it's an opportunity to support and guide them through these crucial years.

Figuring Out Identities

This stage is not just about teens finding themselves; it's also a chance for you as a parent to reflect on your values. What do you want to pass on to your kids? The journey begins in the preschool years, shaping the foundation for open communication about values and expectations.

When Exploration Turns Risky

While testing their limits, teens may engage in a variety of risky behaviors. Examples may include substance abuse, reckless driving, unsafe sexual practices, and self harm, among others. It’s important to note that not every teen will engage in these acts.

Addressing Risky Behaviors with a Compassionate Approach

If you notice risky behaviors, it's normal to feel fear and hesitation. However, avoiding the conversation won't make the issues disappear. Instead, it may lead your teens to seek information from less reliable sources like peers or the internet.

Find Teachable Moments

Rather than a single 'talk,' consider ongoing discussions. Share your beliefs and expectations openly. Encourage them to ask questions, and don't shy away from finding teachable moments in everyday life.

Set the Stage Early

Start discussing these matters before your teen faces risky situations. Provide them with suggested scripts on how to handle challenging scenarios, such as politely refusing alcohol.

Establish Safety Measures

Create a code word with your teen that signifies a no-questions-asked rescue if they find themselves in an uncomfortable situation. This not only assures their safety but also removes potential judgment or shame.

Delay Emotional Responses

Reacting emotionally in the heat of the moment may not be productive. By delaying your response, you allow for more open communication without placing undue shame on your teen.

Contradictory Messages

It's okay to deliver contradictory messages. For instance, saying, "Don't drink, but if you do, call me," acknowledges the reality that even good kids can make questionable decisions. This approach provides an 'out' for them while emphasizing responsible decision-making.

Ask for Help

If your child's risky behavior is getting worse or causing real worry, don't hesitate to get professional support. Talk to your child's doctor or a mental health professional who specializes in teens. They can offer helpful advice to guide both you and your child through these challenges.

Raising a teenager can be tough at times. The most important thing you can do is let go of any notions about who your child should be. Embrace their unique journey, allow them to try different activities and support them no matter what.

By navigating this journey together, you can guide your teen to make good choices and build a strong relationship with them based on trust and understanding.

 

Listen as Dr. Putnam and Dr. Terrill give their thoughts about how to begin the risky behavior discussion along with “The Talk."

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